Do you really kiss your mother with that mouth?
There are certain words we all use each day that seem so innocent, and so harmless that we don’t even think twice about using them over and over again.
And no, I’m not talking about dropping f-bombs or any of those other “colorful” words.
I’m talking about words that are much worse.
My hopes with this quick post is that you’ll get a better understanding of what these 7 words mean, and how they can cause nothing but trouble for you.
If only I was better at this…
This is easily my most hated word ever. There is no word in the entire English language I can think of that shows more doubt and more uneasiness than the word if.
Isn’t it just a bad feeling to not know something? To not feel confident? To me, that’s what this word is all about, and that’s just not for me.
How to live without if: Be confident and, live without doubt. To use if is to show a lack of confidence.
Instead, say: will
I want to buy that car, but it is too expensive
This word basically turns your ideas upside down, and makes you lose focus of the original statement. It acts as a giant contradiction and is the “silent killer” of logic.
When you say you “want to buy that car” and decide that it is “too expensive,” what is the takeaway from the statement? Your mind will come to the conclusion that you can’t have it, and you’ll most likely put it off — rather than putting effort into raising the money.
How to live without but: Say what you mean, and know what you want. Put focus on what you were saying before “but” came into the picture, and decide whether you meant it or not.
Instead, say: and
Maybe I was wrong…
Similar to “if,” this word shows that you doubt something, or just don’t really know what you’re doing. It’s impossible to know and to be sure of everything, so this word doesn’t need to be completely erased from your vocabulary.
How to live without maybe: Take control of the situation and know what you’re doing. Don’t be that person who just drags along with everyone else, know the situation.
Instead, say: will, won’t
4-5. Yes & No
These two words are a little different, and are the most demanding of any of these 7 words.
I have seen people’s lives fall apart because they use these words outside of their comfort zone. I’ve come to realize there are three kinds of people in this world:
- The ones who want to make everyone happy: Truth is, this just isn’t possible. Being the person that says “yes” to everyone is too demanding, and will ultimately hurt your own well-being if you don’t learn to say “no.”
- People who keep to themselves: You’re not obligated to help everyone and have the right to say “no” when asked for a favor, but it doesn’t hurt to help people out every once in a while. It will even make you feel good too.
- Those who know their limits: Then there are the ones who are comfortable enough with themselves to say “yes” or “no” when only necessary.
I can go on for a long time about these 2 words, and I think I will expand on this in a future post.
I’ll try, but I don’t think I can do it…
If we were truly passionate about something, and really wanted to achieve our goals, we would not use the word “try” to describe anything.
How to live without try: You have to know what you are doing, and be determined enough to always succeed at anything you do.
Instead, say: do, will
I’ll just never be good enough.
“Never” is a pretty powerful word. If people actually understood what it meant, they would realize that it means that something is 100% impossible and will actually never happen.
Like a baby being able to lift 100 pounds with one tiny little hand. Or being able to have an intelligent conversation with a giraffe. Ridiculous stuff right? Those things will literally never happen.
But to tell yourself you will “never be good enough” or “never smart enough” is not only hurtful, but will keep you miles away from getting what you want.
How to live without never: In most cases, we use “never” because we are overly emotional about something and have doubt that we will fail at something. Always believe that you can do anything, because really — the sky’s the limit.
Instead, say: soon
Let’s Get Even More Offensive
There are plenty of other bad words that I haven’t included, and will maybe have to revisit someday. But for now, what are some words you would add to this list?